Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong People (And How to Finally Stop)

By Lissa Michelle | Caru Tarot

So.,. you’ve tried everything!

Waiting to text back. Playing it cool. Working on yourself. New profiles, new strategies, new approaches.

And yet… the same patterns keep showing up.

Here’s the truth most people miss: it’s not your dating strategy, it’s your nervous system.

Why “Playing It Cool” Never Works

You can say all the right things, but if your nervous system is stuck in anxiety or fight-or-flight, people feel it.

Magnetic people aren’t trying harder.

They’re calmer. Grounded. Regulated.

Quick check: Think about someone you’re interested in.

Do you feel relaxed and steady or tight, restless, checking your phone?

That sensation tells you everything. Attraction doesn’t come from effort. It comes from regulation.

3 Things Magnetic People Do Differently

1. They Pause Before Reacting

When something triggers them, they don’t spiral or rush to respond.

Try this: Take three deep breaths before replying. Ask, “Am I responding from anxiety or groundedness?” If it’s anxiety, wait.

Grounded energy attracts. Anxious energy repels.

2. They Know (and Heal) Their Attachment Style

Anxious, avoidant, disorganised: your attachment pattern shapes who you attract.

Try this: Start noticing your patterns without judgment. Awareness creates choice. Choice creates change.

3. They Set Clear, Loving Boundaries

Not walls. Not over-explaining. Just clarity.

“I’m looking for consistency.”

“I don’t do casual.”

The wrong people leave. The right people lean in.

What Changes When You Do the Deeper Work

Real transformation happens when you:

Regulate your nervous system Rewire your self-concept Heal attachment patterns Communicate clearly and confidently Build a full life where love is a bonus not a necessity.

That’s exactly what Be The One They Want teaches.

Inside the Course

Nervous system regulation & self-concept work Attachment healing & aligned boundaries Authentic communication & dating from abundance Scripts, quizzes, workbooks, journal prompts, and lifetime access

Your Two Options:

Option 1: Keep repeating the same patterns.

Option 2: Transform from the inside out and become naturally magnetic.

Only one changes everything.

Ready to Stop Chasing and Start Attracting?

Be The One They Want is available now with lifetime access.

Pre-Launch Early Bird Access

As of February 2026, the course is officially in pre-launch.

✔️ All workbooks, frameworks, and written materials are complete

✔️ Modules will be released progressively inside the course portal

✔️ You’ll receive lifetime access as new content is added

Early Bird Price: £47

From 1st March, the full course price increases to £197.

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Start the work now.

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Because the woman who’s grounded, self-led, and clear in her worth?

She doesn’t chase … she attracts.

Pre-Launch Early Bird Access As of February 2026, the course is officially in pre-launch. ✔️ All workbooks, frameworks, and written materials are complete ✔️ Modules will be released progressively inside the course portal ✔️ You’ll receive lifetime access as new content is added 💫 Early Bird Price: £47 From 1st March, the full course price increases to £197. Lock in early. Start the work now. Secure lifetime access at the lowest possible price.

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Lissa Michelle | Caru Tarot